Truth or what you want to hear....
It is ever increasingly difficult to know what to say when someone asks for your opinion or advice. These questions are usually prefaced by "I want your honest opinion" or "Tell me the truth", you fill in the blank because I know you've heard it plenty. But how exactly do you respond?
After hearing the question or situation, a moment of silence and reflection is warranted. Take this 30 seconds to decide whether your opinion could be misinterpreted or worst yet, if its really not your opinion the questioner wants but their own opinion paraphrased by you. Depending on what you can infer by the tone and inflection in their voice when asking the question, choose wisely.
I leave you with an example, so as to better make sense of this whole concept. My two characters are Fred and Tim who are best friends, they talk about everything with each other.
Fred: "Thanks for coming to my Christmas party! Do you like how I decorated the place?"
Tim: "Yes... I do, especially the ornaments on the tree..."
Fred: "Thanks man, I picked them out myself."
Tim: "You have such great taste!"
Infer what you'd like about the example I just wrote, you may even understand what I was trying to say ;)
1 Comments:
It seemed as if "Fred" was coaxing "Tim" for a compliment.
Tim [to me] seemed he had to think quick and responded with the most obvious, the tree at a Christmas party.
Fred Thanked him for the compliment that he expected... then yet again... proceeds to guide Tim into yet another gracious compliment.
Thats my opinion.
But its hard to say from just reading text.The conversation could have gone differently then how I interpreted it.
However when someone asks "HONESTLY" ____insert____question___here___? I would believe they want an honest answer. Its not right to amuse someone with what they want to hear or what you think would soften a blow... its honesty after all. :]
tis all and goodnight
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