Should I or shouldn't I?
Decisions define independence. Controlling your body, your emotions, and your thought are hard to do but tremendously important to your well-being.
Do you find that you arrive in situations where you are presented with forced-choices or more latitude on exactly what goes down? A forced-choice is similar to a true-false problem on a test, you can either choose one or the other. Have you come up with an answer yet?
If you've thought about it, there are extremes to our decisions: quit my job or stick it out, lean in for a kiss or stay still, get emotionally attached or stay distant... and then there are degrees of freedom in our decision making: stay with the company until the summer, gently put my hand on her thigh, let some of my walls down.
Are your decisions extreme or incremental? Peace.
4 Comments:
the situations you describe are all shades of gray
... it mainly depends on your mental state in which you want to do
... let walls down or stay distant... dependent on your mental state
... stay with the job or quit ... conflicts with your want and need for $ more a physical than mental ... of course depends on your line of work
... kill or be killed.... seems black and white but oh so many shades of gray
and my favorite
... lean in for a kiss or stay still....... i say thats a matter of like or dislike ... really no shades of gray at least for me there is none... i guess cuz im not a kissing whore .... ill kiss if i like haha
extreme is a very strong word ... along the lines of hate
i think people are always more incremental because we are afraid of extreme change
take it easy ... your blogs are always well worded and to the point ...
Anon- I like how you link using the word "extreme" and "hate" because it makes me think back to the time I slowly stopped using the word hate and replaced it with 'dislike'...
I agree with your statement about being afraid of the extreme of our emotions, our thoughts, and our behaviors.. why?
Maybe because we're not confident in the control we have over these forceful dimensions of ourself. Chime in when you want ;) Thanks for visiting...
I'm starting to think its not that as a person we lack the confidence in our control.... but im thinking its the lack of trust/support/firmness from the people that surround us that make us lack our willin-ness (spelling ??) for extreme change.... kinda like that action where if fall backwards in line will the person behind you put their arms out to catch you? we would fall and could embrace extreme change if we knew the other person would not be careless in their willin-ness as well....
does that make any sense
-meg
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