Being Easy for a Change
I would like to share with you some revelations I had as an individual with many of the same experiences of the masses, its fun to realize certain things for yourself and feel like you're special! :p
Anywho... these glimpses of "aha" moments came to me on my recent trip to Faial, Azores. Its, as my dedicated readers know, is an island which was colonized by the Flemish and then the Portuguese starting in the 16th century. The first island to be colonized, Santa Maria, was first found in 1427 by an explorer with a pay check from the King of Portugal.
So I realized sitting in an airport for 10 hours waiting to board my plane, that one has the CHOICE of being easy to get along with or difficult. Hence, there are varying degrees where you can be a difficult individual most of the time and sometimes easy or vice versa. I tend to be more times difficult than easy with those closest to me. Now if you encounter me in a professional setting in the field, you'll think I'm the easiest guy to talk to/get along with (and I am for the most part) but when I am in my personal space, the intimate settings of after work home time, things change.
Would it be unrealistic to say that you can curb your frustration, anger, etc ALL THE TIME? Yes. It is impossible to have total tranquility of mind. BUT I do feel very strongly, that it comes down to whether or not you want to smooth things over in your mind and stay calm, thoughtful and positively involved or whether you want to be a real ass hole! haha
The underlying motivation to put that much energy into being naturally pleasant is this - reward. We are creatures of reward and punishment by nature. So what do I get for being so pleasant? I get positive feedback, I get paid attention to, I get warm smiles and soothing embraces, I get subtle kisses and deep looks, I get massages and touches that all make me feel good about life, about the relationship and most of all about the energy it takes to add my part to the formula that forms the best couple dynamics I can.
For all of you out there who are in a mature relationship with someone you care for deeply, whether its marriage or not, its a simple equation: what you put into it + what you can out of it = happy or not happy. You fill in the blanks and tell me what you come up with....
Peace.
Anywho... these glimpses of "aha" moments came to me on my recent trip to Faial, Azores. Its, as my dedicated readers know, is an island which was colonized by the Flemish and then the Portuguese starting in the 16th century. The first island to be colonized, Santa Maria, was first found in 1427 by an explorer with a pay check from the King of Portugal.
So I realized sitting in an airport for 10 hours waiting to board my plane, that one has the CHOICE of being easy to get along with or difficult. Hence, there are varying degrees where you can be a difficult individual most of the time and sometimes easy or vice versa. I tend to be more times difficult than easy with those closest to me. Now if you encounter me in a professional setting in the field, you'll think I'm the easiest guy to talk to/get along with (and I am for the most part) but when I am in my personal space, the intimate settings of after work home time, things change.
Would it be unrealistic to say that you can curb your frustration, anger, etc ALL THE TIME? Yes. It is impossible to have total tranquility of mind. BUT I do feel very strongly, that it comes down to whether or not you want to smooth things over in your mind and stay calm, thoughtful and positively involved or whether you want to be a real ass hole! haha
The underlying motivation to put that much energy into being naturally pleasant is this - reward. We are creatures of reward and punishment by nature. So what do I get for being so pleasant? I get positive feedback, I get paid attention to, I get warm smiles and soothing embraces, I get subtle kisses and deep looks, I get massages and touches that all make me feel good about life, about the relationship and most of all about the energy it takes to add my part to the formula that forms the best couple dynamics I can.
For all of you out there who are in a mature relationship with someone you care for deeply, whether its marriage or not, its a simple equation: what you put into it + what you can out of it = happy or not happy. You fill in the blanks and tell me what you come up with....
Peace.
3 Comments:
:) <3 Lee
sounds like your finaly happy..and i am happy for u freind:)
I would say that I'm happy that I've found a place to call my own ;)
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